Learn how to handle a hyperactive child at home! Use these 3 natural ways and 20 simple activities to calm your toddler, 4-year-old, or older child.
Sometimes my house can feel a little crazy. With three boys, there is no shortage of energy, noise, and pure chaos unfolding around me on any given day.
One of my sons is particularly energetic. Whether he’s running laps through the house, jumping off the couch onto a crash pad made of cushions and random stuffed animals he’s dragged out of his bedroom.
This is often accompanied by talking so loud my head hurts or singing a song at the top of his lungs. He seems to experience life bigger, faster, and harder than my other boys.
He’s always going a mile a minute, with new ideas for how to add more movement, more passion, and more energy into his day.
This level of activity can continue unceasingly, and any efforts I make to slow him down fall on deaf ears.
Is your home anything like mine?
Some will say, “Oh, that’s boys.” But, I’ve seen girls have just as much energy.
Others might say, “You’re not parenting him right, get him under control.”
And, still others will wonder, “Is he hyperactive?”
Why is My Child Hyperactive?
You may have noticed an increased use of the word “hyperactive” in the past several years, whether it be books on the topic, online parenting resources, or even comments from your pediatrician.
The word is often used as a blanket term to describe any kid that is particularly active, like my Isaac.
We use it to describe all sorts of behaviors, from endless movement, to poor attention skills, and even poor self regulation.
To make it clear for this post, let’s define a hyperactive child as one that frequently seeks out movement and can have difficulty sitting still. Another way to look at this behavior though is as a sensory red flag, more on that in a minute.
If your child has a diagnosis of ADHD, this all applies to you, too. But I want to make it clear that we are using “hyperactive child” to include those with and without a diagnosis.
What makes some kids hyperactive? Well, there are tons of factors that include:
- Genetics: The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. If you were “hyperactive,” your child is more likely to be as well.
- Diet: High carb/sugar diets or possible food sensitivities can impact hyperactivity, brain fog, and difficulty being able to sit.
- Environment: If a space is chaotic, with lots of things happening, loud noises, and lights, a child will may match that energy. At the same time, sometimes a space is calm, but there’s not a lot of opportunity for movement. For instance in cold winter climates, kids may become more hyperactive not having fresh air and having space to run and play.
- ADHD: There are 3 subtypes of ADHD, and 2 of them include hyperactivity. If you see consistent hyperactivity in your child that interferes with their ability to focus no matter what environment they are in, it’s possible that ADHD is the cause. However, there are many factors to consider. If you’re suspecting ADHD talk with your child’s doctor.
- Sensory processing: How a child takes in the sensations from their environment is totally unique. Kids that are hyperactive may be seeking out those sensations simply because of how their brain works! (More on this in a minute…)
For most “hyperactive” children, a combination of these reasons are likely in play.
And, the reasons can vary from day to day and week to week. On top of that, some kids can be hyperactive on particular days or all of the time.
If it sounds confusing, you’re not alone.
While there is some detective work involved to find out why your child is hyperactive, there is a likely culprit for most kids who show some of these signs.
The Game Changer for Hyperactive Kids…
While any of the above reasons can affect a child’s hyperactivity, there’s one common denominator that’s often at the root of a hyperactive child or toddler: Sensory processing.
It’s almost impossible for hyperactivity and sensory not to go together; they’re a classic pairing like peanut butter and jelly.
Hyperactive kids often have a high threshold for sensory input that the world around them doesn’t quite meet.
This can often look like your child tipping their chair back constantly when they’re required to “sit still,” jumping on the couch incessantly, or getting out of their chair 20 times during dinner.
Their brains are looking for MORE sensations and aren’t satisfied until they get it. That’s why your hyperactive kid keeps pushing the envelope, seeming not to hear or understand you when you tell them to sit down.
It can seem like they’re being bad or defiant. And, it’s easy to let this reflect on you as a parent, something I know from personal experience.
BUT, there’s a huge bright light at the end of the tunnel, and that’s using sensory strategies to help you deal with and handle your hyperactive child or toddler, whether they are 3, 4, or 12 years old.
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How to Handle a Hyperactive Child – Naturally
When I think about how to handle a hyperactive child, three different solutions come to mind, all of which are natural ways to calm a hyper child. They are sensory-based strategies that I’ve used as an OT and as a mom, and most importantly, they work!
Let’s take a look:
1. Offer activities with rhythm and structure
It’s incredibly important for hyperactive and energetic kids to have an outlet for all that energy. Stifling it, or trying to, often will make it worse.
But sometimes, a free for all can make things much worse. There’s a difference between going outside and running around everywhere, and running back and forth between two points.
The latter is putting some structure to an open activity that may otherwise just make your child more hyperactive.
Then, to kick it up a notch, if you combine some structure with rhythm, the rhythm is often even more calming and organizing to the body and mind (this is one of the sensory tricks).
For instance, singing a rhythmic song like, “The Ants Go Marching One by One” or a military chant-like phrase, “March, one, two, three” over and over again to a specific beat during the activity.
I know that may sound strange, but think about the sound of that military chant repeating in your mind right now. Do you want to lift your feet to march; do you feel a sense of calm?
Those are common experiences and when we pair songs or chants with a rhythmic, repeatable beat to motions like jumping, marching, or running, it can calm kids down quickly.
Now take those ideas of structure and rhythm and apply it to these activities:
- Playing sports – Between rules, physical boundaries of where to play, and time constraints on how long, sports are a great option for structured movement. You may find that your child responds better to individual vs. group sports, as well as the physical exertion level. Swimming and gymnastics are my top 2 to recommend parents start with, due to the sheer amount of movement they require.
- Obstacle course – These don’t have to be too complicated, think about simple ideas like crawling over and under objects, walking on a line, and hopping to the finish line. Click here for more inspiration.
- Going for a walk or run
- Jumping on a trampoline – As in my above example, try singing or simply counting, which is also great for steady focus. We have one like this.
- Climbing – Use a staircase on hands or knees, a jungle gym, a tree, or if you’re lucky enough a rock wall.
These and other structured movement based activities are best for when you need to calm down a hyper child!
2. Free Active Time
Yes, the total opposite of what I just told you. While structure is important for a hyperactive child, so is free play.
Sometimes it’s best to lead with a period of time where they have the time and space to run wild and do what they like. Outside is usually best for this, but these work for your hyperactive child at home, too.
Set some ground rules about safe behavior, and if it’s hard to watch your child climb and jump, maybe there are some dishes you can do!
Here are some specific ideas for free active time you could use with your child:
- Run around outside
- Play on swing set
- Jump on couch or bed
- Have a dance party
- Roughhouse or playfully wrestle together
If your child is really ramped up instead of calmed down after some free play, then you may want to transition to a more structured movement activity. Again, some trial and error has to happen sometimes.
3. Relax
This is usually the last strategy I use for a hyperactive kid and is especially helpful before bed or during activities they need to sit still for.
Hyperactive kids can have a particularly hard time going from a high energy level to a lower one, and using some calming activities like these can make a huge difference:
- Rocking – Either in a swing, hammock, or rocking chair.
- Swinging – Think porch swing, not a contest for who can go the highest on the swing set (which is a great activity and can be helpful in it’s own right, but if you’re going for relaxation, that may not be it). Back and forth movement is very calming to most kids.
- Dim lights – Don’t underestimate this subtle change. Sometimes, just dimming the lights can help calm a child.
- Organized room – An organized space with toys and items put away can also have a big impact. Your hyperactive kid is a lot like a mirror. They react similarly to the environment they are in.
- Music – Think soft, slower music. Lots of kids’ songs have a natural rhythm to them that is calming. Think back to that chant-like repetition we mentioned before.
- Changing light – At times, my kids use these slow changing night lights/diffusers to watch as they drift off to sleep. A lava lamp can have the same effect.
Having a hyperactive child can be exhausting, in every sense of the word, but don’t lose hope!
These three solutions, when used independently or together can have a tremendous impact on your child’s life.
One caveat though: Don’t give up on these too soon.
It’s so important that you try all of these strategies multiple times. It will take you and your child some time to figure out what’s working and what’s not.
How to Deal with a Hyper Toddler
While everything above definitely applies to the younger crowd, toddlers can be a bit of their own beast, so I wanted to share a couple of extra tips for hyperactive toddlers:
Use sensory bins – This is best to try after some structured movement time, but many kids will become very attentive and focused while exploring different textures. Head over to my list of sensory bins for ideas and how to make them educational too.
Riding toys – Most toddlers have one. Have it out often and encourage your hyperactive toddler to ride it and push it around. It’s fantastic sensory input that will likely calm them down.
Pile the couch cushions on the floor – All kids love this, but it’s especially perfect for toddlers. The climbing and jumping will meet their sensory needs.
Now you have a plan for how to deal with a hyperactive child or toddler! But, there’s a potential danger that can sabotage your efforts…
The Hidden Trigger for Hyperactive Kids
Screen time – I know how much the TV or tablet can be a lifesaver, but pay attention to how often your hyperactive kid is watching it, and how it affects them.
More and more studies are showing that screen time actually increases hyperactivity (See this article).
Since hyperactive kids are more sensitive to their environments and input, it makes sense that they are often more negatively affected by screen time.
If this seems like an impossible task to you, start small.
Try using screen time strategically and to your advantage. Remember how we mentioned adding structure when it comes to using activities? The same thing goes for screen time.
Start by building screen time into the routines of your day with clear boundaries for when you do and don’t use it. Add it in where it helps you without having a complete free for all.
If you think screen time might be affecting your hyperactive child, here is an article on other methods for decreasing screen time that can help.
Wait, is ADHD Causing My Child’s Hyperactivity?
According to recent research, anywhere from 6%-16% of kids aged 3-17 years old who exhibit hyperactive tendencies will be diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).
It is more common in boys than girls, but the rates have become more balanced between the two in recent years.
ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder, and is defined by persistent and frequent episodes of hyperactivity, inattention, and impulsivity.
Kids with ADHD will absolutely benefit from the sensory techniques and strategies mentioned above, but may also require other assistance from healthcare professionals.
Also, medication does have a place for kids with ADHD. It’s important to know your options, and I believe involve your child in the decision and checking in with them regularly after they are taking the medication. Self-reporting from adults on ADHD medication varies widely, as some feel it’s changed their life for the better, while other’s don’t like how it makes them feel.
Regardless of medication use or not, knowing how to help regulate your child so their hyperactivity naturally decreases with sensory strategies is a major strategy that will have immense benefits.
To learn more about the sensory and ADHD connection, click here.
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Alisha Grogan is a licensed occupational therapist and founder of Your Kid’s Table. She has over 20 years expertise in sensory processing and feeding development in babies, toddlers, and children. Alisha also has 3 boys of her own at home. Learn more about her here.
Thank you for this post! I’ve been struggling with my hyperactive child, and your tips on routine and positive reinforcement really hit home. I love the idea of incorporating sensory breaks into our daily schedule. Looking forward to trying these strategies and hoping for a calmer home!
I loved reading through your information and all the links to other sections! My son is undiagnosed but seems to be having sensory issues with clothes this past year. He is almost 4. The most consistent has been that his pants always “feel like they are falling down” this seems opposite to most but assuming it is sensory seeking behavior I have tried girls leggings and rubbing his legs and tie up pants and slim jeans… I am not sure what to try next. The girls leggings is very new and seems to be the best so far but haven’t completely helped. He is also obsessed with asking if his pants are still tight or reassuring himself that they feel loose but are in fact tight. What are your thoughts on this? I am so lost.
Hi Natasha!
Sometimes kids will use the language they have to describe what is going on but it isn’t necessarily getting to the root of is. We do have an article on clothing sensitivities but it sounds like you are already down this track. My first thought is possible the tactile system or even proprioceptive input to his waste (they actually make sensory weighted belts) that might help him. Could it also be some kind of anxiety going on as well?
Laura
Your Kid’s Table OT
Absolutely the best article I have ever found on ADHD preschool children. I love how sympathetic you are to the plight of parents handling this daily as well. I’m currently reworking my 3 year olds schedule while trying to squeeze in work from home as nannys quit and childcare tries to make him sit and attend (which results in impulsive aggression).
Thank you for your kind response, Diane. We are intimately aware how hard this can be day in and day out, and have a soft spot for these kids and parents. It is hard! Thank you for following along.
Best,
Laura
Your Kid’s Table team member
I really enjoyed reading this. The part where you said something to the liking of not being able to watch – then rather go do some dishes – I was in stitches hahahahahaha.
This was super helpful – Thank You
I have a 4 year old who is the epitome of ACTIVE – I’d like to have an evaluation done at an OT. I’ll look into that.
Once more – thank you for your amazing story.
Hi Trez! Thank you so much for reaching out and sharing your feedback! So glad you enjoyed this post 🙂
Best,
Kalyn
Thank you for this post . My son is a sensory seeker and very hyperactive because of it , this article has given me some really good ideas to try . He has a sensory room and lots of resources, we are still learning as we go ! Thank you
Hi Donna! Thanks for reaching out and sharing your feedback! We appreciate it! So glad you found this post helpful and found some ideas— its definitely a learning process, but it sounds like you guys are making great progress 🙂
Best,
Kalyn
i need more tips to able to help my child
Hi there! Definitely check out our free sensory workshop. It’s such a great place to start for more info about kids and their sensory systems. You can save your seat HERE. Please reach out to us with any questions at all.
Best,
Kalyn
Our six year old grandchild finishes his dinner in maybe five minutes. He is made to stay at the table for fifteen minutes, which results in him throwing a tantrum or nagging to get up and play. Both situations end up with him being sent to his room with lots of screaming.
I say, let him cleat his plate and play quietly in the adjacent living room, and allow him to return for dessert if their is any.
Dinner has become very uncomfortable for everyone, except his parents. No one has said anything to them.
Hi Paulette! Thanks for reaching out! Sorry to hear that mealtimes are stressful- we totally understand! He may need some patience and practice in order to work his way up to staying at the table for a longer mealtime. We have a post that talks all about this. Check it out here!
Best,
Kalyn
My 4-year-old boy was born during the covid pandemic, is bouncing off the walls from wake up to be time. He doesn’t speak well, I believe he tries to communicate and gets frustrated because we don’t understand what he wants. so, for example, when he wants some thing like cereal, he’ll grab one of our hands, walk us to the kitchen and point up at the cereal box. He can’t speak of few words, but for the most part, it sounds like Russian gibberish. thank you.
Hi Ashley,
Have you brought these concerns up with your pediatrician? If you have it available, OT services could really help. A speech referral would also help lessen his frustration from communication difficulties. I would definitely pursue these things if you have the opportunity to have a professional assess and be able to help support him and you.
Best,
Laura
Your Kid’s Table team member
Many toddlers are very active. At what point should a parent take their toddler to an OT?
Hey Catherine,
It never hurts to get an evaluation even if they can help to provide you with some suggestions on where to go/what to do! But, we do have an article that may help with activities to try at home you can check it out HERE
Best,
Desiree
My girl.is hyper acrive and can’t focus on songs she cannot memorise any sentencw even she can’t read 2 leters associated.i am.working qith orthophonist and psychomotricienne. But , i need to adjust her behavior .?
Hi Lara! Have you talked with her doctor? We also have a free sensory workshop that can help with handling her sensory sensitivities and behaviors. Save your seat here!
Best,
Kalyn
I’m a little confused about the rhythm and structure part. Can you share some ideas of that for a toddler?
Hey Catherine,
For rhythm and structure you want to make sure that they aren’t just running around. You can have them tag between different object running back and forth such as touch blue, touch red while running in the yard. You can have them stomp their feet while running and singing a song. Jumping on trampoline while keeping to the beat of music. All these things can be helpful to keep the structure!
Best,
Desiree
hi, my child is 6 years old, she has a absence seizures , we give her etozoximide sodium valproate and colisipan….but now she is hyperactive child. normally we give baby 1/4 colidine tablet in the night. but her educational concentration too bad…. pl give + ideas for serve our child…
thank you
Hello,
Thanks for reaching out! We understand how hard this can be! I’d try some of the suggestions from the article but you an also look at this Article as it will walk you through proprioceptive activities that are naturally calming for kids. Just make sure none of the activities are contraindicated for your child’s case!
Best,
Desiree
I have read many articles on ADHD, hyperactivity and sensory seeking. Your article is the best one I have come across! You stated what is needed, why, and then listed a handful of activities that could accomplish that need. AND you explained why each activity helps! Thank you! I am going to write short notes to refer to when my children become overly hyper. I am bookmarking your page and cannot wait to read more!
Oh that’s wonderful! Your comment made my day:)
There’s useful information in this text and I’m sure those who come across it will agree. I understand that this is very off topic , however one can not help but notice the child in the first picture of this reading. As a mother of a little girl I would not want OR have my daughter being displayed in such a way that she is. It would be best if this image were omitted as soon as possible, as it is rather inappropriate.
And why is it Inappropriate? Lol not following
I have researched for years, been to psychologists, counsellors, paediatricians and yet after all that have left feeling misunderstood and frustrated. Today I accidentally happened across your site and it is the very first time you over 10 years that I finally feel that I understand more about what is going on with my child. It is so tough knowing where to go to find the answers without feeling like you are going totally mental and that maybe everything is in your own mind as you just can’t find anything or anyone who can help☺️😟😕😕. So I just wanted to say thank you from a Mum who has searched for so long for some answers and some understanding!!
Hey Jo,
We’re so glad that you found us!! That is so wonderful to hear. Definitely check out our free sensory workshop. It’s such a great place to start for more info about kids and their sensory systems. You can save your seat HERE. Please reach out to us with any questions at all.
Best,
Andrea
I have been seeking for solution to my child’s active behaviour till I found your article that has given me hope just that I still need more enlightenment and please can I have a seat for the sensory workshop just need what to start with for my child
Chris, we are happy to hear you are feeling hopeful with these resources. You can join the free workshop at your convenience here.
Best,
Laura
Your Kid’s Table team member
Wow Angie, that’s unbelievable! Thanks so much for sharing your insights and experience, it will help others.
The article on hyperactive kids is close to accurate, but missed a couple. One thing that is unfortunetly missed is Restless Leg Syndrome. My daughter was diagnosed at 4 yrs old with sever ADHD. She did not sleep more than 4 hrs a day, and not in a row. She even walked in her sleep. She came off all meds by 4th grade for ADHD but was not diagnosed with Restless Leg Syndrome until she was 17 yrs old. She has an extremely severe case of RLS. She was also diagnosed with short term amensia at 18 yrs old. The schools insist on ADHD meds and push to much on ADD or ADHD instead of looking for other possible problems.
An an OT with RLS/PLMD diagnosed back to age 5 and not treated till 30’s or 40’s and still not effectively to this date, I feel for her. I use a lot of sensory strategies to avoid the meds they push for that Good luck to you and your daughter and thanks for getting the word . Out I have only met 2 younger children with it and one “outgrew” it? The other couldn’t get anything to help!
Have you tried getting a panel to see about vitamin and mineral deficiencies? For example, even just having low magnesium can cause some of the things you mentioned. Too high levels can cause just as much trouble.